Last night the same-sex marriage bill was passed in New York I celebrated and cheered along with everyone else, and suppressed the urge from doing a cartwheel in the bar that I was sitting in, with some of my friends. What an amazing achievement! Already I was thinking off all the weddings that I could now celebrate. It is such a giant step, and now with gay pride occurring this weekend, and some gay friends here from San Francisco for the weekend, I could not help but be undeniably happy for all of them.
Gay Marriage, homosexuality, has never been a big thing for me. Growing up in San Francisco, with very liberal family and friends, I was taught to never judge anyone by their sexuality. But then attending a conservative boarding school, I was suddenly confronted with Middle America and opposing arguments against gay marriage from some teachers. All arguments, which I could somewhat emphasize with.
Today’s New York Times, “The Road to Gay Marriage in New York” describes how gay marriage was passed because of “shifting public sentiment and individual lawmakers moved by emotional appeals from gay couples who wish to be wed”.
I was touched by the story of D. Senator Carl Kruger, a longtime opponent of same sex marriage who was moved to approve it last night. Over the years, because of his staunch views against same sex marriage, many protesters would protest in front of his house. It ultimately ended in his gay nephew who stopped speaking to him.
Kruger said, “It has now gotten personal” when protesters started calling him gay. But fellow Senator, Sampson, a longtime supporter of same-sex marriage advised Mr. Kruger to focus on his family, “because when everything else is gone, all you have left is family” (New York Times).
But aside from all the babble, these justifications and arguments for or against same sex marriage that are a “forest of mirrors” getting lost amidst the institutions, labels and structure of it all. The only centering point that I can conclude with are my close friends who happen to be gay.
Whatever… “Love is the liberator”.